Here’s the thing:
I get frustrated at conversations that fixate on “Are you single?”
That approach may work wonderfully for those who are in constant and persistent search for the love of their life. But I’m not one of them, never was. Besides, men in general have been of very little use to me. (No offense, but just that’s my experience.)
Also, there are far more interesting things to talk about.
Why not “What sort of books/music/movies do you like?”, “What was your childhood like?”, “What places have you been to?”, “Where did you get your name?”, “What is your favorite food?”, “What were your grandparents like?”, “How do you like your work?”, “What do you like to do when you’re not busy?” “Do you make up stories in your head?”, “What are your dreams like?”, “What do you want to be ten years from now?”, “What’s your favorite color?”, “What’s your favorite flavor of ice cream?”, “What was your favorite cartoon as a child?”, “Do you believe in God?”, “Who is your favorite person in the world?”
At the very end, if you’re both available, then good for you both! And if not, at the very least, you’ve had won a friend, right? Isn’t that far more important anyway?
(At this point, can we have a round of applause for all the men and women who, despite any initial attraction, actually take time to get to know people? You know who you are.)